Dating without losing your mind, part two is a continuation of Dating without losing your mind part one. In part one of this article, we talked about maintaining your 'good girl' status without losing yourself in the process.
Many people's problem with dating is that in order not to lose their partner and maintain the relationship, they tend to lose themselves in the process.
As I said in the preceding article, I'm not a fan of "Admin hide my ID" which has become a norm in every social media group now. The number of calls to group Admins to hide identity while one shares a bad experience on social media these days is alarming.
All these are as a result of dating and forgetting self. Some persons focus on being the perfect girlfriend or boyfriend and forget about the other important relationship parameters.
For them, showing the portrayal of a perfect and idol-like persona of a partner highly matters. However, while dating, you should never forget that you had a life before the relationship.
This article, which is a continuation to "Dating without losing your mind part one" will highlight some other necessities and features to observe in a relationship for both partners to be happy.
Learn an effective way to communicate
Communication is the key to every effective relationship. Understand that no matter which level of dating you are on, that the person is not you.
They are learning about you like you are learning about them. Don’t assume that people will do things your way all of the time, and don’t assume that people know what’s going on in your mind.
Each individual has a particular perception. It will be wise to study your partner, learn, and use a better way to communicate with him.
Do not ignore red flags
No relationship is perfect as every relationship has its own unique weaknesses and strengths. However, there are limits to what everyone can endure.
Once you observe some characters that do not sit well with you and you have seen clearly you could never put up with anybody with such character, it is better to thrash it as early as possible to avoid it dangerously affecting your psyche.
It is important to take it out with your partner and when your partner isn't making any conscious effort to change; it may be difficult but advisable to walk out of the relationship with your mind intact before you lose it.
However, it is important to note that there is no individual without a dark side.
Learn to give your partner space
In a dating or relationship, bonding is good for growth but know when to give your partner space. It is always advisable to give each other space but make sure this is not done in excess. Giving your partner space is always very healthy for a relationship.
Too much togetherness can ruin a perfect relationship too. Keeping a relationship alive needs memories and special moments. As much as it may be 'a couple things', you need individual memories and special moments too.
To keep a relationship fresh and exciting, you need to experience things separately and then come together. This can certainly make you relish your togetherness more.
Do not always wish to cuddle, be with him and call him on the phone non-stop. Sometimes, be on your own, go out with friends, have fun and gain yourself.
This will help you bond more with your partner as it gives room for each partner to miss each other.