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Friendship first before lovers - part 2

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TJ
Tochi Juliet

In part one of this article, we established that for no reason, should you mount pressure on somebody's son that is not yet ready for a relationship or marriage. The act can be dangerous as he may likely not commit to you, thereby leaving you broken.

Here are several reasons and numerous advantages why you need to become friends first before lovers.

No expectations and pretence

When you develop a genuine friendship, there are no expectations, you can be yourself, he can be himself, and you can learn everything you want to know about each other.

You don't have to worry about pretending to be someone you're not; he can relax knowing that he can be himself and not worry about if you're going to ask about a relationship.

You can date other people

When it comes to friendship, there are no strings attached, and you are free to date and see other people if you like because you're not tied to him, you're not obligated to him, and you don't owe him any explanations for the decisions you make.

Friendship breeds a healthy atmosphere for love to grow (if you two want)

Tend to be sure of your feelings

You may find out that being friends is for the best and that you don’t want to be in a relationship with him. It’s better to find out during the friendship phase that you don’t want a relationship, instead of finding out later, when you must have been emotionally connected to him.

Friendship is an opportunity for you to get to know your partner without being emotionally tied. Many times, being friends is the best option.

Some people transit from friendship to lovers in a matter of months. However, the good thing is that you have come to know your partner for who he is.

Putting friendship before relationship allows you to be free, free to be who you are, and open to choose to be in a relationship with him or not.

When next you hear the words, let's be friends, take it in with all cheerfulness. Give him just that, don't go about expecting it to blossom to a relationship.

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