Message to my ex-Boyfriend that will make him cry

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My name is Esther, I am 28 years old. I met Victor while in my third year in the university. We were best friends before we started developing feelings for each other and later fell in love. 

We dated for 5 years. Everything went well in the initial stage of the relationship. Victor was so caring and loving. He wakes me up every morning with sweet and romantic text messages that I thought I had reached my final bus stop but little did I know that he was a snake in green grass. 

He was a chronic cheat, a manipulator, and a liar. I thought he would change but I was deceiving myself. You know how you will love someone so much that you could not even let go, that was my case.

Everything worsened when I left for the compulsory NYSC program. We were still talking though and I used to visit him to spend some weekends together but I never knew he was planning to get married to another woman.

One day while at work, I logged into my facebook account as usual to catch up on my friends. I saw my boyfriend's pre-wedding picture with someone else. Mind you, we never had any misunderstanding. 

I was shocked. I cried my eyes out. I called him but he wasn’t taking my calls and after some days, I heard he had moved to the United Kingdom with his wife. I also heard his wife is based in the UK and she sponsored the trip.

I was heartbroken, I was pained, I felt used after 5 good abortions. I never did anything wrong. He decided to cause me so much pain that I almost committed suicide if not for my friend Vickie.

After a week, I summoned courage and texted him. Here's the message I sent to him that made him cry:

“Victor,

I saw the wedding pictures you posted on Facebook while I was at work, you caused me so much pain. 

I wasted five years of my life, believed all the lies you told me, and aborted 5 pregnancies just for a man who never loved me. 

You left without saying goodbye and you didn't even think I deserved an explanation. You told me you love me but you never did, you deceived me. 

I gave you my love, my trust, and my heart but you shattered it. You used me, Victor. May God be the judge!”

This was his reply

“Hi Favour

You've broken me down completely🥲. I was a coward, I took your love for granted. I don't know how to begin but I'm deeply sorry, I had to let go because you deserve someone better.” 

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My name is Jessica and I am 26 years old. My story might sound strange but it's really what happened.

I met Daniel at my colleague's traditional marriage. He liked me and wanted something serious with me and I agreed to date him because he was cute and smart.

We grew together in love. He calls me every time reminding me how much he loves me and would want to spend the rest of his life with me. 

I was excited, “I have finally found my own man”. My mom knew him, my siblings knew him, even my friends. Everyone knew we were into each other.

Fast forward to when we decided to take our relationship to the next level. Guess what happened? We had to run a genotype test. 

Personally, I was not bothered because I had run a genotype test while in school and I knew I was AA. You should know that people whose genotype is AA and pride are 5&6🤣

So, I went for a test again with so much confidence but I got the shock of my life. I discovered I was AS and Daniel was AS too. Mehn! I wasn't convinced, I never believed it. 

I told Daniel that can't be possible. We decided to go elsewhere, and it was the same result. We ran a test in 5 different clinics and Daniel and I were still AS. 

I was broken, I couldn't eat for days, I never knew whether to walk away or stay. Daniel insisted we should go ahead but I couldn't. 

The thought of bringing a child into the world to suffer crippled me. We couldn't stop seeing each other but with tears in our eyes. 

After a month, I decided to walk away not because he hurt me but because I loved us enough. My message to Dan.

“My crown💕

You're the best thing life gave me, you gave me hope, you made me strong, you made me believe in myself and be confident. You showed me what true love is and made me believe in forever.

God knows how much I want us to be together but I have to let go. If I don't let go, our children will suffer the pain and I may not forgive myself ever.

It hurts to let go but I have to not because I don't love you but because I love you too much to cause you pain. I won't stop praying for you and I won't stop loving you from afar.”

From Dan:

“You’ve just broken something inside me🥲. I had told you we can fix this babe. How do I let go? You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. You will forever remain in my heart❤️”

I met Oluwafemi in the NYSC camp. The way we started talking is very funny.

You know how stressful NYSC camp is. During the parade, I was sweating like a christmas goat and I didn't have my water bottle. I also couldn't go to Mami to get a sachet or bottle of water because the soldiers were on watch.

As a quiet and shy person, I never had friends. Oluwafemi walked up to me and jokingly said “I see you're stressed, take some water to cool down”. I smiled, drank the water and playfully called him “my saviour”. He became the first and only friend I had in camp.

However, we were not posted to the same local government. I was posted to Warri and he was posted to Ughelli. But then distance wasn't a barrier. It was just a #1,000 transportation fare from my place as at that time so we never stopped seeing each other.

Fast forward to after our NYSC, he moved to Lagos and I returned back to Anambra, we were still talking. Six months later, Oluwafemi secured a job in an oil company, he studied Petroleum Engineering though. He started making huge amounts every month and I was happy “My man is rich, you know”.

He later insisted I should come over to Lagos and I never hesitated. I moved immediately. 

After a month in Lagos, he took me to his family and introduced me as the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with but unfortunately, his mother rejected me saying he can't allow his son to marry from my tribe. I tried all I could but she told me I can't marry her son.

Oluwafemi wanted to move on with the marriage despite his mum's attitude but I said no, I can't stay in a family where I am not loved and accepted. My man was sad, I could see it on his face but I had to let go.

After crying for some days, here's a text message I sent to my ex boyfriend that I believe made him cry:

“I have always held onto you like a special part of me from the day you gave me a bottle of water to quench my thirst. I dreamt of forever with you but your mother told me I don't deserve her son.

Well, I have seen the way between your heart and her heart. I know you could fight for us but I believe love shouldn't be a battle ground.

I had to leave not because I don't love you but because love shouldn't be a battle. I will always remember you my saviour”

Young Lady in Lagos

He was a roadside mechanic when we started dating, I stood by him even in difficult times. 

I even sold my phone once to help him settle a customer's debt but when he made it, he dumped me and picked another girl from a rich family.

Here's a message I sent to my ex boyfriend that made him cry;

“You told me that we were building a future together but you handed it over to someone else. I stood by you when you had nothing but you left me when you made it. I don't think I will ever forgive myself for letting you play me.”

He called me to beg for forgiveness explaining how the girl pushed him into having sex with her and she got pregnant. 

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My ex-boyfriend Fred and I had been in a relationship for 2 years but all of a sudden, he never replied to my text messages any longer. 

I never offended him though I knew he was cheating on me but I never thought he could marry someone else after all we shared together. Fred dumped me for another woman after all I did for him.

I sent him this text message:

“I feel used Fred, you ghosted me and the next thing I saw was your wedding card. How could you? After everything I have done for you. 

You told me I was your future but you treated me like I never existed. I regret knowing you Fred, May God be the judge and I pray Karma visits you and your entire family soon.”

Fred later replied:

“I was too weak to handle the outcome. I thought disappearing was the best way but I never knew it was the worst. I just wish you could forgive me. I'm deeply sorry but the last part wasn't necessary."

A boy crying

I and ex-boyfriend Tunde had been together for 3 years but I later found out that he was having an affair with Aisha, my best friend. She even got pregnant for him so I had to leave.

Here's the text message I sent to him:

“Tunde you impregnated my best friend, one person I told all my secrets to, one person I loved as my blood. 

You would have stabbed me yourself that would have been way better than this humiliation. I never knew you were like this.”

This was his reply: 

“There are absolutely no words that can clean up this mess. I betrayed you and I'm deeply sorry. I just wish you could forgive me”

My name is Peace, I met Donald in a drinking joint looking all sad and moody. As an extrovert, I cheered him up though I didn't know what happened because that was my first time meeting him.

When I was about to leave, he asked for my contact information and I gave it to him after all, he was very handsome. 

To make the story short, we started dating and he told me his ex girlfriend moved to the UK with his life savings. Well, I don't know whether it was a lie but all I knew was, “I loved him”

I helped him rebuild his confidence but after a year, he left me for another girl. He said he has found someone he connects better with.

Here's the text message I sent to him:

“I wasn't your girlfriend, but your rehab. You used me to build your confidence and all when you became whole you left me for another. 

I gave you all I had until I became empty now you're gone. I just hope Karma visits you soon”

Here is his reply :

“You're right Peace, you were not just my partner but my safe place but I couldn't love you the way you deserve. I'm deeply sorry for everything, you deserve better♥️”